Presence

I received an email quite some time ago from a friend. He forwarded me a story. Although it was long ago but I still remember the piece coz it sort taught me something.


The story is about a couple. They are madly in love and adore each other so dearly. One day, the guy had to go somewhere oversea on work purpose so he had to leave his girlfriend behind for 2 years. Before he left they make a vow that they will still love each other. From the first day he left, he kept sending his girlfriend flowers, chocolates, present and wrote her a love letter everyday, saying how he missed her and all. His girlfriend replied his letter everyday, saying she missed him too and how she can't cope with life without him by her side. The guy tried to comfort her girlfriend by saying he's doing that for both of them and keep sending gifts and flowers as a sign that he's always thinking of her. A year after that his girlfriend wanted to call it off. He was devastated because he loves her so very much and couldn't understand what went wrong. So he asked his girlfriend why. This is what the girlfriend answered.


"I don't need chocolates, flowers or expensive presents from you. All I need is your presence and attention. Someone to laugh with and someone to cry with, someone to hug when I'm sad and someone to cuddle when I'm happy. I know that all the things that you did to me were to remind me how you love me but somehow I can't feel the warmth."


She might be a bitch but that is so true. What she did is just following her heart and voiced out how she felt. To woman, remembrance is not enough, presence completes everything. It's not the guy faults that he had to go away [ but actually he got a choice, not to go for it at the first place] and it's not the girls fault to fell out of love either. I mean when you're thousand miles apart and you have so many things going around you, you might loose the feeling of being love and loving someone. They said "Being apart makes hearts go fonder" but to me being apart makes heart grew apart


The problem with some women [which includes me] is when we are in love, we will put man on top of the list and push everything behind. We can classified these women as stupid [say what ever you want but I don't care].We would sometime sacrifice something that we wanted the most even it means melepaskan peluang menengok konsert dewa dekat Singapore yang aku sangat-sangat nak tengok.Ok, that's not my point. Really.


Like right now, I want to pursue my study overbroad but I don't believe in long distance relationship. I know that some people can but sorry, I just can't. Been there and done that and it didn't worked out eventually. If I really want to pursue that thing, I would surely end my relationship that I have here with out without my conscious. I'm a love addict and I can't live without man. How am I supposed to live and love when my boyfriend is thousands miles away? How can I feel the warmness and the flying feeling when the person is not there? I love attention so much and I need my boyfriend to be here with me so that when I'm sad he's here to comfort me and when I'm happy he’s here to share my joy. Call me selfish or conceited. But you know what? Maybe I am.


Guy and woman have different thinking. To guy, remembering is enough [walaupun kadang-kadang benda yang simple pon susah nak ingat] but to woman, showing is everything. Thousands words won't mean anything if you did nothing to prove it. It's like saying "I love you" but you did nothing about the relationship. I think in a relationship both parties have to play their part to show that they love each other. Showing doesn't mean showering your love ones with money or presents but showing means to be there when they need you the most. Both parties have to put some effort. Effort doesn't mean that have to pretend to be someone you are not but at least do something to preserve the fire or to make it sizzles more. Try to be there for the person that you care regardless how busy you are no matter whether it's your mother, your father or your other half [or in my case,my cats]. Love is not only a feeling, love is to feel, to give, to take and to show.


Hum..By the way, should I still pursue my master? I mean, it would be wonderful to go somewhere where you can start a new life and meeting new people and in addition get a master. I can even buy that gorgeous fuschia-alicia-key-look-a-like coat and wear it there.Uhh..Sangatla tempting ok.


On second thought, nolahhh. He's more important compared to a piece of paper.


But who knows something might happen in the future?*



*Ini bukanlah satu hint.Sekian, terima kasih.